Monday, June 16, 2008

Sugarpie, honeybunch

This past week, Scott and I celebrated our fourth anniversary. He took me back to Lupa where we went for my birthday because we both enjoyed it so much the first time. As is to be expected, it wasn't quite as amazing the second time, but it was still REALLY good.

Since we don't generally go to bed until well into the wee A.M. hours, I decided to edit my Facebook status when it became our anniversary to say something really "awww"-inspiring about how I love him now more than ever. But there was only one little problem...

It's not true.

Now before you have a heart attack, I do love him. I love him very much. But I always have. And I'm sure there is some part of loving him more that is true, just because of the nature of the intimacy of marriage and spending every day of the last four years together. But I couldn't honestly say something cutesy about loving him now more than the day we were married.

Maybe this makes me a terrible person. Maybe it just means I don't like cutesy phrases. I hope my marriage isn't doomed. But I asked him the same question, "Do you love me more now then when we got married?", and he feels the same way I do. So at least we're on even ground. We both love each other. A lot. Maybe we're just both so laid back, I haven't noticed loving him more. Maybe four years just isn't long enough to say those kinds of phrases. Maybe I should check back in 10 years.

But I'm curious. For those of you who are married. Do you love your other half more than you did when you got married?

(For the record: We're very happy together. We love each other very much. And we plan to spend the rest of our lives together. Obviously.)

3 comments:

Jonathan & Kari said...

Happy anniversary!

I really admire your frankness on this subject. I don't think there's really a right or wrong answer, but for me I'd have to say that I do love III more now that when we got married - simply because I've seen in him in more roles/capacities and have been impressed and really appreciated who he is in new ways that I didn't know before.

Meaghan said...

Happy Anniversary you two!

I thought this was great! And I think it just says that you two are perfect for each other if you both feel that way, you know?

As for me, I have to say I DO love Chris more than I did the day we got married, which I really didn't think was possible. I love him on a different level. Like Kari said, seeing him in more roles/capacities has really impressed me. Plus, the longer I'm with him, the more I feel like he's my favorite person and really the only one who gets me and loves me for who I am, unconditionally. We recently were talking about how we are both pretty devoted people and would have been fairly happy with whoever we ended up with - but that ending up with each other has proven to me more than we ever thought it would be.

Oh, and for the record, that last paragraph was pretty cheesy. The cutesy phrases are a little annoying to me, too, so I won't bombard your blog with any more! :)

Nicole said...

I'll let you know in about 10 years. ;) Happy Anniversary!